Let Go of Your Control Issues
Updated: Jul 9, 2021
Do you HAVE TO be in control? Does it freak you out when you are not in control?
Sometimes, when we feel like we need to be "in control," we get in our own way of serving God. We get so busy tying to make sure things are going like we think they should that we forget why we are serving in the first place.
Other times, we can be so fearful of NOT being in control, that we end up being basically useless. We get so afraid that things will not go according to plan, so we just quit.
"It is good for us to take inventory of our hearts from time to time, asking the question, "Am I looking to this temporal world for my satisfaction and security, or am I putting my hope and trust in Jesus, the One who never changes?" - Bronwyn Cardwell
I struggle with this. It is very hard for me to not be "in control." I remember when my oldest daughter was a baby. My family ( parents) and the life I grew up with seemed to be falling apart. I was desperate to hold on to anything and everything I could just to keep some semblance of control. I remember how I would not let anyone take my baby anywhere unless I went along. I had to control her environment...to keep her safe...to be there in case anything might go wrong. I'm telling you right now, it was crazy! Crazy and exhausting. I wore myself out constantly worrying and trying to stay a step ahead. I ended up hurting my family too because I made them feel that I didn't trust them. The truth was that I didn't trust anything. The things and people I had believed in and trusted unquestionably for so long had crumbled. My faith was shaken. I felt like I could never be okay again unless I was prepared and in control of anything that could possibly go wrong....
Let me tell you, that is not anyway to live. It did not give me security, it gave me a cage. It did not make me prepared, it made me afraid. It took a very very very long time for me to fully realize and then even longer to fully (sometimes still not fully) accept that I AM NOT IN CONTROL. One better??? I don't want to be!
God is the ONLY person who has control. He is the only one who knows all the variables and can foresee all the outcomes. He is the only one who is ABLE to be prepared. He is the ONLY PERSON WHO WILL NEVER CHANGE. The only one you can trust to be perfectly faithful. The Bible tells us- “Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.” (Deuteronomy 7:9)
“His is the Rock, his works are perfect, and all his ways are just. A faithful God who does no wrong, upright and just is he.” (Deuteronomy 32:4)
“For the Lord is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting and His faithfulness to all generations.” (Psalm 100:5) I can never live up to that kind of responsibility. Neither can you. None of us can. Would you ever want to try?
So instead of spinning my wheels trying to save enough, do enough, be enough, ....whatever enough- Just say, " Enough!" I don't have to be. God Is. HE IS ENOUGH. And God is watching out for me and my family. We couldn't be in better hands. So back to my question...Do you HAVE TO be in control? Or can you trust God to handle it?
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